To this day, my widowed mother and I, who share a home, continue to get holiday cards and event invitations addressed to "Mrs. Firstname Lastname & (Almost always misspelled version of Amadi's birth first name)" so I'm 43 years old and I'm an afterthought who doesn't even merit a last name.

And then there's my father's family, who make it worse with "Mrs. Deadfather Lastname & (Misspelled version of Amadi's birthname)."