LW1: WTF. Don't be a cheapass, take your oldest daughter with you. Or else don't complain in 10-20 years when she doesn't want any relationship with you.

LW2: WTF. You are the adult in this scenario, mental health issues or not. Find a way to emotionally regulate yourself so your kids don't have to manage your emotional disregulation. Or else don't complain in 10-20 years when they don't want a relationship with you.