LW really just sounds to me like she needs to grieve a bit longer and then see how she feels. (I wish she had said how long ago it was in the letter; it's hard to tell if there's really anything unusual going on here.) Instant sharing of emotion isn't really reasonable in every situation, and it's fine for her to let herself be for a while. I suspect the clear answer will arise if she just lets it. (And kind of sounds to me like maybe she already knows it and didn't want it to be what it was, but what do I know.)