There's zero reason for all that detail about the kid's disabilities. It's irrelevant to the actual question and could have been summarized as "my nephew has a service dog for his disabilities (including seizures)." Why are you fixated on this, LW? Why the hell are you sticking your nose into the routines of households that aren't yours and that you only even visit twice a year? Why is the severity of the allergies, which are relevant, completely skipped over, while the irrelevant medical info of the nephew gets so much detail? (If they're so severe that a once-a-week visit from a dog makes the house impossible to stay in even with cleaning, walking around outside is going to be at least as bad, and your family had better have heavy-duty meds on hand at all times. Dogs are everywhere.)
Speaking as a person with dog allergies, who has suffered through family gatherings at dog-households (with allergy meds, for a couple of hours, followed by decontamination at home immediately) - you are full of shit. Have you TESTED whether deep-cleaning is insufficient? You say it's "likely" there'd be an allergic reaction but it's not even your allergy, wtf are you doing harassing other people to change their whole lives around on a hypothetical? Have your wife and kid experimented with different allergy meds and sensitivities to places where dogs have OCCASIONALLY been vs where dogs live? Why is it you white-knighting about allergy hypotheticals instead of your wife making a plan to protect her health, e.g., by staying at a hotel if the house is too allergenic? You're just so far out of your lane it's absurd.
Use the hotel, give the kids individual choices about hotel vs grandparents' house, and shut the hell up about your nephew's disabilities and his service dog. Forever. (Also be grateful your parents still want to see you at all, after you campaigned for separating their grandkid from his service dog and making his life AND their lives more difficult and dangerous all year, just to satisfy your anxiety about your twice-a-year visit. Hell, maybe they don't! Maybe it's their other grandkids they want to see and they're putting up with your awful behavior so you won't cancel on them out of spite.)
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Speaking as a person with dog allergies, who has suffered through family gatherings at dog-households (with allergy meds, for a couple of hours, followed by decontamination at home immediately) - you are full of shit. Have you TESTED whether deep-cleaning is insufficient? You say it's "likely" there'd be an allergic reaction but it's not even your allergy, wtf are you doing harassing other people to change their whole lives around on a hypothetical? Have your wife and kid experimented with different allergy meds and sensitivities to places where dogs have OCCASIONALLY been vs where dogs live? Why is it you white-knighting about allergy hypotheticals instead of your wife making a plan to protect her health, e.g., by staying at a hotel if the house is too allergenic? You're just so far out of your lane it's absurd.
Use the hotel, give the kids individual choices about hotel vs grandparents' house, and shut the hell up about your nephew's disabilities and his service dog. Forever. (Also be grateful your parents still want to see you at all, after you campaigned for separating their grandkid from his service dog and making his life AND their lives more difficult and dangerous all year, just to satisfy your anxiety about your twice-a-year visit. Hell, maybe they don't! Maybe it's their other grandkids they want to see and they're putting up with your awful behavior so you won't cancel on them out of spite.)