I do like this answer. And I feel like every shallow person who then holds the shield of "but I was being honest" should get a good swift kick in the pants.

I mean yes. Attraction is often about how someone looks in the beginning (not always) but frankly at this point you should also be attracted to other qualities. They have been together for a few years. There should be attraction to their mind, their sense of humor, their kindness, the way they cook, how they remember that certain special thing about you, and how they look at you when there is passion. If this person ONLY cares about the physical look and it must be a certain size? Then I say get out bc no one person is going to remain static in a jar (including the LW) all their life. Get a freaking grip.