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Taken from Digg's Good Question (1/3)
Dear Urban Diplomat,
My partner and I have been together for six months, but something is eating away at me. On our first date, I lied about loving the CN Tower’s EdgeWalk to seem adventurous. Then, as a Christmas gift, he bought us EdgeWalk tickets for the spring. It was adorable how excited he was, and I played along. In truth, I’m terrified of heights, and I wouldn’t try that horror if someone paid me. I’m worried that the truth will break us up. Please help.
—Lying Still, East York
You lied to your partner, and that’s a big no-no—even if it was a minor lie early in your relationship. You can either swallow your phobia and walk the Walk or come clean before things get worse. The choice is obvious to me. If you expect to have a future with this person, he needs to know your hopes, dreams, fears and foibles. He may be upset, but you’re still in forgivable territory. The longer you tiptoe, though, the harder it will be to speak the truth. And a love life built on lies (even little white ones) is more fraught than walking on any edge.
https://torontolife.com/city/dear-urban-diplomat-i-lied-to-my-partner-about-my-fear-of-heights-then-he-bought-us-edgewalk-tickets/
My partner and I have been together for six months, but something is eating away at me. On our first date, I lied about loving the CN Tower’s EdgeWalk to seem adventurous. Then, as a Christmas gift, he bought us EdgeWalk tickets for the spring. It was adorable how excited he was, and I played along. In truth, I’m terrified of heights, and I wouldn’t try that horror if someone paid me. I’m worried that the truth will break us up. Please help.
—Lying Still, East York
You lied to your partner, and that’s a big no-no—even if it was a minor lie early in your relationship. You can either swallow your phobia and walk the Walk or come clean before things get worse. The choice is obvious to me. If you expect to have a future with this person, he needs to know your hopes, dreams, fears and foibles. He may be upset, but you’re still in forgivable territory. The longer you tiptoe, though, the harder it will be to speak the truth. And a love life built on lies (even little white ones) is more fraught than walking on any edge.
https://torontolife.com/city/dear-urban-diplomat-i-lied-to-my-partner-about-my-fear-of-heights-then-he-bought-us-edgewalk-tickets/