I like icebreakers, to a certain extent. No, not the "bring in a picture of yourself as a kid" ones. (For so many reasons...) But in say, *monthly* meetings where they can be part of team building.

But this manager is ex-tra creepy with the writing private info down from both group and one-on-one meetings, which: No.

With an actual manager with boundaries who wanted to work with the LW and yet still have icebreakers, I would suggest emailing the LW the questions/activities ahead of time, to let them prepare for it.