"Why exactly are you the one sending this letter? HIS mom, HIS kids, HIS ex - let HIM send it!"
I can actually understand this one, because I see it frequently with my brother and SIL. There are certain things in our family that really upset my brother; these almost always involve our mother, who almost definitely has an undiagnosed cluster B personality disorder. It upsets my SIL to see my brother so upset but he doesn't want to talk about it, says things are never going to change and to just leave it alone. So instead she'll talk about things with me and my three sisters and ask for advice about if there's anything she can do to diffuse the situation, or if we know anything she can do to help our brother. My brother has no idea that my SIL does this, and we will never tell him because we know he doesn't want her trying to do anything, just like we know she's just trying to figure things out
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I can actually understand this one, because I see it frequently with my brother and SIL. There are certain things in our family that really upset my brother; these almost always involve our mother, who almost definitely has an undiagnosed cluster B personality disorder. It upsets my SIL to see my brother so upset but he doesn't want to talk about it, says things are never going to change and to just leave it alone. So instead she'll talk about things with me and my three sisters and ask for advice about if there's anything she can do to diffuse the situation, or if we know anything she can do to help our brother. My brother has no idea that my SIL does this, and we will never tell him because we know he doesn't want her trying to do anything, just like we know she's just trying to figure things out