My dad's hobby before my parents got married was picking up cars for cheap, restoring them, selling them, and then using the proceeds to buy more cars for cheap, some of which he would then rewire, saw in half, stick two different cars together, and flip the gearing round so he could drive as fast backwards as you can normally do forwards. (This is the vague impression I have from his stories of how to describe it, not how he would describe it, rather than a technically accurate representation.)
I can well imagine my mother saying "no" to him doing this again, not least because it was at times dangerous, and at times questionably legal. Cash flow was definitely... interesting.
Another of his hobbies was motorcycle racing. My mother has absolutely put her foot down about that since the time he had an accident, separated his clavicle and ribs from his sternum, and then got back on and continued racing for the rest of the day.
So these are the sorts of things I'm mentally filling in when this guy says "motorcycling", rather than "weird sex" or something like that. In which case, I can find a little more sympathy here. My dad gave up a lot of his hobbies when I was born, so he could offer a stable life and raise me well. He never said he was giving them up forever. As a result, one question for me is: did the wife know about this hobby when she met the LW? Did the hobby used to be okay, and suddenly now it isn't? Why?
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My dad's hobby before my parents got married was picking up cars for cheap, restoring them, selling them, and then using the proceeds to buy more cars for cheap, some of which he would then rewire, saw in half, stick two different cars together, and flip the gearing round so he could drive as fast backwards as you can normally do forwards. (This is the vague impression I have from his stories of how to describe it, not how he would describe it, rather than a technically accurate representation.)
I can well imagine my mother saying "no" to him doing this again, not least because it was at times dangerous, and at times questionably legal. Cash flow was definitely... interesting.
Another of his hobbies was motorcycle racing. My mother has absolutely put her foot down about that since the time he had an accident, separated his clavicle and ribs from his sternum, and then got back on and continued racing for the rest of the day.
So these are the sorts of things I'm mentally filling in when this guy says "motorcycling", rather than "weird sex" or something like that. In which case, I can find a little more sympathy here. My dad gave up a lot of his hobbies when I was born, so he could offer a stable life and raise me well. He never said he was giving them up forever. As a result, one question for me is: did the wife know about this hobby when she met the LW? Did the hobby used to be okay, and suddenly now it isn't? Why?