Yeah, I agree that the advice is useful to me. I have lots of friends whom I love dearly who make choices I wouldn't. Hell, if I scolded everyone who shops at Amazon, or who works at Google, I would have zero friends. And nor do I think those are appalling choices, to be clear, they're just ones I wouldn't make, just as I make choices every day that my friends disagree with!
But there are some things I think of as actively evil. "Travelling to Hawai'i during a drought" isn't (to me) evil, it's making choices the LW wouldn't make in a complex and fucked up world, where tourism is both harmful and vital for Hawaiians. "Fighting the birth mother for custody of a baby you want to adopt" is, in most cases, go directly to the evil box, do not pass go, do not collect $200. If I knew someone doing that and they weren't dissuadable, I wouldn't want to be friends with them or with anyone who still is friends with them.
In a co-worker case it's different, agreed. You can't tell your coworker that mission trips are evil, but you can ask them to not talk about it in the workplace, and you can possibly involve HR. But, say, if your co-worker told you they're trying to convince family to buy crypto (evil, sometimes socially acceptable, and not technically religious) you'd have a harder time getting HR involved.
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Yeah, I agree that the advice is useful to me. I have lots of friends whom I love dearly who make choices I wouldn't. Hell, if I scolded everyone who shops at Amazon, or who works at Google, I would have zero friends. And nor do I think those are appalling choices, to be clear, they're just ones I wouldn't make, just as I make choices every day that my friends disagree with!
But there are some things I think of as actively evil. "Travelling to Hawai'i during a drought" isn't (to me) evil, it's making choices the LW wouldn't make in a complex and fucked up world, where tourism is both harmful and vital for Hawaiians. "Fighting the birth mother for custody of a baby you want to adopt" is, in most cases, go directly to the evil box, do not pass go, do not collect $200. If I knew someone doing that and they weren't dissuadable, I wouldn't want to be friends with them or with anyone who still is friends with them.
In a co-worker case it's different, agreed. You can't tell your coworker that mission trips are evil, but you can ask them to not talk about it in the workplace, and you can possibly involve HR. But, say, if your co-worker told you they're trying to convince family to buy crypto (evil, sometimes socially acceptable, and not technically religious) you'd have a harder time getting HR involved.