(Calling doctors and therapists to tell them not to believe her *causes her harm.*)
I had an experience in 2011 when I was bleeding very heavily [menstrual period that had gone on for months and ended up needing multiple surgeries to stop]
and I turned gray and nonverbal on an commercial aircraft flight, so much so that the flight attendant spontaneously came over to me and fitted an oxygen mask on me without me having pressed the call sign or attracted her attention in any way.
I went straight to the hospital afterwards.
The doctor asked my partner at the time if my symptoms were normal for me. My symptoms were not normal for me, but my partner at the time had Asperger's and was very literal and he said yes [because I had previously had completely different symptoms of chronic health conditions and also because he found the hospital environment stressful and wanted to go home]
after that, nothing I could say or do made the doctors take me seriously or run appropriate health tests
because the word of a male partner counts more than the word of the woman whose body it is
I was sent home, far too unwell to be sent home, and several things occurred after being sent home where I genuinely could have died
including
a) having to get up steep, wet, slippery outdoor stairs that had a very rusty shaky handrail UNASSISTED when my balance was so bad that I was toppling forwards out of a manual wheelchair;
b) being left in bed and not checked on for several days when I couldn't get out of bed to get myself a glass of water and was bleeding very heavily;
c) after telling my partner that he needed to manage my medication because my short term memory was currently so bad that I couldn't remember if I'd taken 10 seconds before, he dumped all the medication on the table next to my bed and refused to help me with it in any way, even tho it included Paracetamol/acetaminophen/Tylenol which can cause death by liver failure if you accidentally take too much. [The excuse he gave when I confronted him about it was that he didn't want to be woken up by me in the morning just so that I could take medication]
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I had an experience in 2011 when I was bleeding very heavily [menstrual period that had gone on for months and ended up needing multiple surgeries to stop]
and I turned gray and nonverbal on an commercial aircraft flight, so much so that the flight attendant spontaneously came over to me and fitted an oxygen mask on me without me having pressed the call sign or attracted her attention in any way.
I went straight to the hospital afterwards.
The doctor asked my partner at the time if my symptoms were normal for me. My symptoms were not normal for me, but my partner at the time had Asperger's and was very literal and he said yes [because I had previously had completely different symptoms of chronic health conditions and also because he found the hospital environment stressful and wanted to go home]
after that, nothing I could say or do made the doctors take me seriously or run appropriate health tests
because the word of a male partner counts more than the word of the woman whose body it is
I was sent home, far too unwell to be sent home, and several things occurred after being sent home where I genuinely could have died
including
a) having to get up steep, wet, slippery outdoor stairs that had a very rusty shaky handrail UNASSISTED when my balance was so bad that I was toppling forwards out of a manual wheelchair;
b) being left in bed and not checked on for several days when I couldn't get out of bed to get myself a glass of water and was bleeding very heavily;
c) after telling my partner that he needed to manage my medication because my short term memory was currently so bad that I couldn't remember if I'd taken 10 seconds before, he dumped all the medication on the table next to my bed and refused to help me with it in any way, even tho it included
Paracetamol/acetaminophen/Tylenol which can cause death by liver failure if you accidentally take too much. [The excuse he gave when I confronted him about it was that he didn't want to be woken up by me in the morning just so that I could take medication]