LW#2 can eff off right into the sun. Not sometihng I say very often but frankly at this point.. there are so many ways he can do something instead of making his adult daughter do it for him. I, personally, have trouble buying gifts for my BILs and so I ahve resorted to the one thing I know they both like: a lb a coffee I know they drink and a travel mug. Sometimes I throw in a box of fancy chocolate for them. If I can buy the same gift every year and it is welcomed, then LW#2 can give money or whatever pleases him to give.
I feel a little for LW#1. And it sounds like the best course of action is to do a gift to the kids and then like a "family" gift like a yearly pass to the zoo, or a charitable donation in the family name. I grew up with someone who never gave me a single gift I asked for. I was always given what THEY wanted to give me (which they actually wanted) and when I wasn't as happy about it was punished for not being THRILLED bc it was what they wanted. I now belong to a family that asks what I want and then gives it to me PLUS a gift or 2 that they wanted to give me bc whatever the gift was it made them think of me. Now I know if I ask for say... a set of tongs or a spice grinder I will actually get it, and also perhaps a quilt made for me. It is NICE to have someone ask and then give you the thing you asked for. It is a burden to get a gift you never wanted or needed and then be forced to act like it was "the best thing ever" bc the person giving the gift wanted it for themselves.
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LW#2 can eff off right into the sun. Not sometihng I say very often but frankly at this point.. there are so many ways he can do something instead of making his adult daughter do it for him. I, personally, have trouble buying gifts for my BILs and so I ahve resorted to the one thing I know they both like: a lb a coffee I know they drink and a travel mug. Sometimes I throw in a box of fancy chocolate for them. If I can buy the same gift every year and it is welcomed, then LW#2 can give money or whatever pleases him to give.
I feel a little for LW#1. And it sounds like the best course of action is to do a gift to the kids and then like a "family" gift like a yearly pass to the zoo, or a charitable donation in the family name. I grew up with someone who never gave me a single gift I asked for. I was always given what THEY wanted to give me (which they actually wanted) and when I wasn't as happy about it was punished for not being THRILLED bc it was what they wanted. I now belong to a family that asks what I want and then gives it to me PLUS a gift or 2 that they wanted to give me bc whatever the gift was it made them think of me. Now I know if I ask for say... a set of tongs or a spice grinder I will actually get it, and also perhaps a quilt made for me. It is NICE to have someone ask and then give you the thing you asked for. It is a burden to get a gift you never wanted or needed and then be forced to act like it was "the best thing ever" bc the person giving the gift wanted it for themselves.