"Clothes I will not let them wear" makes me wonder if the grandparents are deliberately ignoring the lists because they think LW is being too controlling about what her kids are allowed to have. I'm struggling to come up with clothes Grandma would give under-12 kids that would be truly inappropriate for the kids to wear if they wanted and they fit. (Do they have pop culture logos? Are they too gendered or not gendered enough? Are they not made out of 100% pure hemp fiber? Do they let you see your daughter's elbows? What is the issue with these clothes?)

I even sort of wonder if Grandparents are in fact buying stuff the kids asked them for....