Exactly. This answer is bad because even if Amy doesn't like it, plenty of people are happy with asking for what you want and getting it and nobody appointed her the arbiter of gift-giving. It's not wrong to not buy things off a list that someone gives you unsolicited, but it is very much wrong to ask for such a list, which is not easy and quick to make, and then disregard it. If they are against shopping from a list for LW's family they should make that explicit - and if that's the case isn't it weird that they're happy to give her a shopping list for them?