No, it makes total sense, I was just thinking in the larger societal sense of the second shift and how little most people seem to notice that that's a thing/appreciate how it works. Growing up, we had chore divisions of specific kinds - Mom did cleaning and laundry and most cooking, but Dad did all the kitchen cleanup, outdoors chores, etc. They split childcare duties. (I was an only child and sometimes we did have cleaning services, because Mom doesn't like cleaning and we had the resources for it.)

In my household now, we trade off who cooks and who cleans (both of us like to cook) and interior cleaning is....I won't say evenly divided, because husband cares more about specific standards than I do and also is not chronically plagued with migraine, so he tends to do more, but we do try to thank each other for doing the thing. But I think of the "average" het couple (at least as described in research I've read?) or think of certain of my male relatives and try to picture them even noticing how much work their female partners do, and come up blank.