Also it makes sense that you identify with her, considering your experiences, just like I identified with him, considering mine (I was a scholarship kid at a school for rich children. I ended up pretty unimpressed with the 1%.) One of the interesting things about these tales we read from the advice columns is who identifies with whom and why.
I went to a public (no-fee) Primary School where some of the kids were quite rich [some of the kids had parents who were bankers and advertising executives], when my family were reliant on food parcels from the church in order to be able to eat. I hear you!
On the other hand, as a Disabled/chronically ill person who just ran my Roomba for the first time today since 3 March 2022 because I was having difficulty picking all the cords, cables, clothes, rubbish etc off the floor due to hip pain when I bend; I have a lot of time for people who can't clean due to pain, fatigue, ADHD, Depression. Too much bending to pick stuff up off the floor = my pain can flare up for a week to the point that I can't sleep due to pain.
I have ZERO time for people who won't clean because "it's below them" or because they think they're too rich/too important.
I really like this book about how cleaning is morally neutral, shame is not useful, and your space exists to serve you, you don't exist to serve your space
How to Keep House While Drowning: A gentle approach to cleaning and organising by KC Davis
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I went to a public (no-fee) Primary School where some of the kids were quite rich [some of the kids had parents who were bankers and advertising executives], when my family were reliant on food parcels from the church in order to be able to eat. I hear you!
On the other hand, as a Disabled/chronically ill person who just ran my Roomba for the first time today since 3 March 2022 because I was having difficulty picking all the cords, cables, clothes, rubbish etc off the floor due to hip pain when I bend; I have a lot of time for people who can't clean due to pain, fatigue, ADHD, Depression. Too much bending to pick stuff up off the floor = my pain can flare up for a week to the point that I can't sleep due to pain.
I have ZERO time for people who won't clean because "it's below them" or because they think they're too rich/too important.
I really like this book about how cleaning is morally neutral, shame is not useful, and your space exists to serve you, you don't exist to serve your space
How to Keep House While Drowning: A gentle approach to cleaning and organising by KC Davis
https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Keep-House-While-Drowning-ebook/dp/B09KTGVQRH