It's not something you need to take a college course in.
It IS something you have to learn how to do, though - and it can be hard and embarrassing to admit, as an adult, "I need to be taught how to do this thing everybody else can do".
Especially when it comes to things like "How OFTEN do I clean the bathroom?" and "Okay, but WHAT PARTS of the room am I supposed to wipe down?" and "Do I have to clean the walls? Do I have to dust the top of the fan? How often do I do these things?" and "Exactly how much time do I need to schedule to declutter the living room?"
"Washing a dish" and "scrubbing a toilet" is easy. All this other stuff is not so easy if you weren't raised doing it, and it's easy to be flip about it, I guess, but....
Listen, I was raised in *literal squalor* after my father died due to a combination of factors. Actually, our house wasn't all that tidy before he died either - both my parents had executive function issues like you would not believe. This is not precisely the same as being raised with two parents and a housecleaning service, but it did make me pretty unable to do basic maintenance of cleaning. I can emergency clean with the best of them, if you don't mind everything being tossed out, because god forbid the plumber comes in and sees the house like this - but cleaning regularly? God. It's not easy! And snotty comments like yours are exactly the sort of shame-inducing thing that make it harder to ask for help, so maybe keep it to yourself.
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It IS something you have to learn how to do, though - and it can be hard and embarrassing to admit, as an adult, "I need to be taught how to do this thing everybody else can do".
Especially when it comes to things like "How OFTEN do I clean the bathroom?" and "Okay, but WHAT PARTS of the room am I supposed to wipe down?" and "Do I have to clean the walls? Do I have to dust the top of the fan? How often do I do these things?" and "Exactly how much time do I need to schedule to declutter the living room?"
"Washing a dish" and "scrubbing a toilet" is easy. All this other stuff is not so easy if you weren't raised doing it, and it's easy to be flip about it, I guess, but....
Listen, I was raised in *literal squalor* after my father died due to a combination of factors. Actually, our house wasn't all that tidy before he died either - both my parents had executive function issues like you would not believe. This is not precisely the same as being raised with two parents and a housecleaning service, but it did make me pretty unable to do basic maintenance of cleaning. I can emergency clean with the best of them, if you don't mind everything being tossed out, because god forbid the plumber comes in and sees the house like this - but cleaning regularly? God. It's not easy! And snotty comments like yours are exactly the sort of shame-inducing thing that make it harder to ask for help, so maybe keep it to yourself.