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Kate ([personal profile] julian) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2022-09-29 03:31 am (UTC)

"...he's already in "I'm going to claim I'm Totally Fine doing the cleaning but also make misogynist jokes about this a lot, demonstrating that I am NOT fine but actually want to punish her for every dirty dish" territory."

Yes. This was what disturbed me about it, but which I couldn't quite articulate while running around during the day.

It's a melange. They have a lot of communication difficulties and swallowed anger compressed into a very small time period, and it's rumbling under the surface, with the so-called "jokes" indicating there's an iceberg's worth of Issues under there.

They're going to need to do a LOT of unraveling their communication problems, and soon, otherwise their co-parenting is going to be *extremely* problematic, and not just about cleaning.

Which I realize sounds alarmist, and also doesn't answer his question.

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