Yeah, if I was writing a reply to LW and his wife, it would be

a) housework is morally neutral. Mess doesn't mean you're a bad person, but it can make it hard to find things, and make your life harder and/or more stressful. Also if dust gets too bad it can aggravate asthma

b) assuming that there are no health issues like pain, fatigue, Depression, ADHD getting in the way, both partners should do 50% of the housework unless otherwise negotiated.