I'm not even trying not to hate the LW. Look, I share a bed with a serious, serious snorer. Like, "we've often just not slept in the same room," can be heard downstairs snorer. So I sympathize.
OTOH, said snore shares the bed with a serious, serious insomniac, and if I can get out of bed and go read in my recliner, I'm getting the feeling that Sasha does not have that option.
LW's basic, critical error here is focusing entirely on Sasha, on what, say, reading on a bright screen might be doing to her instead of how it's disrupting LW's sleep. In fact, it's not clear at all to me besides the obvious issue of snoring just how this impacts the LW. I mean, if Sasha's only sleeping three hours, she's only snoring three hours, right? But instead of controlling what they can control, namely themselves (and thus getting earplugs, a night mask, and/or requesting reassignment), they're being rude, controlling, and invasive to Sasha. And FFS, making someone's sleep habits a Very Big Thing, making Sasha feel like she's being monitored for every shift, every sound, isn't quite the worst thing for insomnia, but compared to it, a loud party downstairs is mild.
Request reassignment, LW, and in the meantime, focus on YOU and what you need to sleep. And Sasha? Use a blue-light filter on your phone at night.
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OTOH, said snore shares the bed with a serious, serious insomniac, and if I can get out of bed and go read in my recliner, I'm getting the feeling that Sasha does not have that option.
LW's basic, critical error here is focusing entirely on Sasha, on what, say, reading on a bright screen might be doing to her instead of how it's disrupting LW's sleep. In fact, it's not clear at all to me besides the obvious issue of snoring just how this impacts the LW. I mean, if Sasha's only sleeping three hours, she's only snoring three hours, right? But instead of controlling what they can control, namely themselves (and thus getting earplugs, a night mask, and/or requesting reassignment), they're being rude, controlling, and invasive to Sasha. And FFS, making someone's sleep habits a Very Big Thing, making Sasha feel like she's being monitored for every shift, every sound, isn't quite the worst thing for insomnia, but compared to it, a loud party downstairs is mild.
Request reassignment, LW, and in the meantime, focus on YOU and what you need to sleep. And Sasha? Use a blue-light filter on your phone at night.