We have similar cultural differences between my parents and my in-laws. Honestly I can see the pros and cons of each - I find my in laws a little cold at times, they have lots of money, live abroad and prioritise their own comfort over spending money to travel to see us and my brother in law's family. My grandparents also lived in the US and would pay for me to fly over to see them from the UK anytime I wanted to go, they could afford it but they would have prioritised it above almost anything else.
On the other hand, I love that my in laws also don't expect us to care for them in their old age, they would like us to go and visit more often but they have no interest in living with us and expecting us to do day to day stuff for them.
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We have similar cultural differences between my parents and my in-laws. Honestly I can see the pros and cons of each - I find my in laws a little cold at times, they have lots of money, live abroad and prioritise their own comfort over spending money to travel to see us and my brother in law's family. My grandparents also lived in the US and would pay for me to fly over to see them from the UK anytime I wanted to go, they could afford it but they would have prioritised it above almost anything else.
On the other hand, I love that my in laws also don't expect us to care for them in their old age, they would like us to go and visit more often but they have no interest in living with us and expecting us to do day to day stuff for them.
It's complicated and I think there are trade offs