LW is 100% right that they don't need to travel to see the grandparents, no question. But LW is also a griping, selfish, person who is angry that the parents are retiring instead of becoming live-in babysitters, so my sympathy is limited.
Unless LW is financially strained now and relying on an inheritance for important things, this letter is from someone who is angry that their parents -- who raised six kids! regardless of whether they raised them well, that's exhausting -- are now deciding to do something that's not about kids.
LW doesn't clarify anything about the parents finances when LW was a kid, so it's not clear they could have helped with college. And I don't know where LW falls in the birth order, but speaking as a third -- when kids from larger families interact with kids from smaller ones, even before the cultural differences, it raises comparisons of helicoptering vs. neglect. I went hungry at lunch for all of elementary school, not because of abuse or neglect, but because my working parents had three kids and didn't have the energy to make sure the little one packed a brown bag. It happens.
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LW is 100% right that they don't need to travel to see the grandparents, no question. But LW is also a griping, selfish, person who is angry that the parents are retiring instead of becoming live-in babysitters, so my sympathy is limited.
Unless LW is financially strained now and relying on an inheritance for important things, this letter is from someone who is angry that their parents -- who raised six kids! regardless of whether they raised them well, that's exhausting -- are now deciding to do something that's not about kids.
LW doesn't clarify anything about the parents finances when LW was a kid, so it's not clear they could have helped with college. And I don't know where LW falls in the birth order, but speaking as a third -- when kids from larger families interact with kids from smaller ones, even before the cultural differences, it raises comparisons of helicoptering vs. neglect. I went hungry at lunch for all of elementary school, not because of abuse or neglect, but because my working parents had three kids and didn't have the energy to make sure the little one packed a brown bag. It happens.