Ugh, that sucks. My own descent into depression hell came later (~20yo), but I've heard a number of horror stories from other people who were severely depressed as kids and dismissed as "moody" or "antisocial" by the adults around them. This whole letter, and its answer, creep me out with their blithe assumption that nothing could REALLY be wrong for these kids. LW is very invested in the idea that they have made a Good Safe Life for their kids! How dare they be less than blissfully happy?!
I mean, in this world, as it is right now? There are probably a ton of kids who are depressed and dealing with emotional overload just from being surrounded by covid and rising fascism. Not that kids should need an identifiable trauma to have their problems taken seriously - but there is PLENTY of identifiable trauma for everyone, right now. LW is outright delusional if they think they can make (or have made) a perfect little family bubble that prevents any suffering. And by stomping hard on even the little complaints, they're cutting their kids off from saying anything about larger fears...
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I mean, in this world, as it is right now? There are probably a ton of kids who are depressed and dealing with emotional overload just from being surrounded by covid and rising fascism. Not that kids should need an identifiable trauma to have their problems taken seriously - but there is PLENTY of identifiable trauma for everyone, right now. LW is outright delusional if they think they can make (or have made) a perfect little family bubble that prevents any suffering. And by stomping hard on even the little complaints, they're cutting their kids off from saying anything about larger fears...