Agreed. Not to mention that personally, if one person made safer choices to not let their kid go to his house or not babysit or whatever and another person said I was mean for gossiping behind his back, I think I'd be satisfied with that outcome. Clearly when you weigh these two things against each other, the risk to other women is greater than the risk to you of being socially awkward??? And also I like full-body cringed at the recommendation to cut off the contact with the kids. We're talking kids small enough to still have playdates here! There's no good script for that, man. Plus, if your kid is old enough to know what sex is and be taught about consent and talking to trusted adults, I think they're old enough to be told that you don't think his house is safe but you don't mind the kid coming over.