It doesn't sound like Sal asked Gran for money, or I'm sure Gran would've made that quite clear. So that's one thing that raised my eyebrows here.
"Please do not give me unsolicited financial advice again" sounds entirely reasonable: that is what Gran was doing, and Sal's no doubt been getting plenty of that (perhaps from Gran, perhaps from others). The "can't help you to set up Venmo" is perhaps not very considerate of Gran's feelings, but may well also be completely true.
I notice that the message we don't see verbatim is Sal's initial reply about how they want to receive the money. Did they say "thank you" already there? If not, then yes, a "thank you for your efforts on my behalf" is due, but as regards what to do with the money, Gran should take them at their word and do that instead of deciding she knows better than them. They're 26, not 6.
Gran should not be keeping the money if she's not giving it to Sal. If she wants to punish her grandchild for setting a boundary, then she should return the money, not sit on it and keep it for herself.
And, um, if Sal hasn't received the money because Gran has kept it in her savings account, why would Sal write a thank you message to the friends...? They haven't received any such money. For all they know, it doesn't exist.
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It doesn't sound like Sal asked Gran for money, or I'm sure Gran would've made that quite clear. So that's one thing that raised my eyebrows here.
"Please do not give me unsolicited financial advice again" sounds entirely reasonable: that is what Gran was doing, and Sal's no doubt been getting plenty of that (perhaps from Gran, perhaps from others). The "can't help you to set up Venmo" is perhaps not very considerate of Gran's feelings, but may well also be completely true.
I notice that the message we don't see verbatim is Sal's initial reply about how they want to receive the money. Did they say "thank you" already there? If not, then yes, a "thank you for your efforts on my behalf" is due, but as regards what to do with the money, Gran should take them at their word and do that instead of deciding she knows better than them. They're 26, not 6.
Gran should not be keeping the money if she's not giving it to Sal. If she wants to punish her grandchild for setting a boundary, then she should return the money, not sit on it and keep it for herself.
And, um, if Sal hasn't received the money because Gran has kept it in her savings account, why would Sal write a thank you message to the friends...? They haven't received any such money. For all they know, it doesn't exist.