My free-spirited son struggled a lot with becoming a dad (it isn’t a role that plays to his strengths, and he felt a lot of shame around not being the primary breadwinner). My daughter has always been responsible so I knew she would be fine.
Sounds to me like someone has a favourite and they've made it clear. "Meh, my daughter will be fine with the lifechanging process of becoming a mother and being a parent"... listen to yourself, LW. Of course your daughter wanted your help too. You don't quite mention whether the two even became parents at the same time -- was it a zero-sum game? Or could you have offered the support even if your daughter didn't need it?
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My free-spirited son struggled a lot with becoming a dad (it isn’t a role that plays to his strengths, and he felt a lot of shame around not being the primary breadwinner). My daughter has always been responsible so I knew she would be fine.
Sounds to me like someone has a favourite and they've made it clear. "Meh, my daughter will be fine with the lifechanging process of becoming a mother and being a parent"... listen to yourself, LW. Of course your daughter wanted your help too. You don't quite mention whether the two even became parents at the same time -- was it a zero-sum game? Or could you have offered the support even if your daughter didn't need it?