Okay, what is "bare bones" about a huge backyard barbecue party? LW and I clearly do not share a worldview, because if someone says "bare bones wedding" to me, I think "five minutes in front of a judge to sign the marriage license and no guests beyond the legal requirement for witnessing and no after-party at all". It's just... not the party that LW and possibly Annie's mother seem to think should happen, and since they're not the ones being married, they can just deal.
I do agree with the commenters who say that the guests should know some things about the event to which they're being invited for reasons of health issues (e.g., outdoor venue= potential for allergens, ditto what food is being served, though frankly with a more casual and outdoor venue I'd think it would be easier rather than harder for those with food challenges of whatever sort--- I'm not slagging people with allergies, I just have a couple of food issues myself that aren't allergies but that I do have to manage so I try to draw that one with broad enough strokes--- to BYO if they need to, as opposed to something fancy and catered).
And, okay, I don't have enough expletives for LW's attitude about the shower. I mean, what else is there at a bridal shower except snack foods, snarky and/or sexy anecdotes about married life from those who've been there, and the bride-to-be opening presents? Whatever else LW thinks there is supposed to be is definitely money I agree with Annie is better spent on literally anything else.
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I do agree with the commenters who say that the guests should know some things about the event to which they're being invited for reasons of health issues (e.g., outdoor venue= potential for allergens, ditto what food is being served, though frankly with a more casual and outdoor venue I'd think it would be easier rather than harder for those with food challenges of whatever sort--- I'm not slagging people with allergies, I just have a couple of food issues myself that aren't allergies but that I do have to manage so I try to draw that one with broad enough strokes--- to BYO if they need to, as opposed to something fancy and catered).
And, okay, I don't have enough expletives for LW's attitude about the shower. I mean, what else is there at a bridal shower except snack foods, snarky and/or sexy anecdotes about married life from those who've been there, and the bride-to-be opening presents? Whatever else LW thinks there is supposed to be is definitely money I agree with Annie is better spent on literally anything else.