+1 to both the above. Yeah, bullying is not okay and it's doubly bad when you've been warned in advance that it's a trigger... but it's ALSO not okay to throw rocks (!!) at people (!!!), and LW's ability to hold these events as roughly equivalent, as it seems that their letter is doing, seems... bad. Hurting people's feelings and physical violence are really, REALLY not the same thing. Yes, Adele thought she was throwing a rock at an adult and "didn't mean to hit them" (...ok), but that doesn't really matter. If you deliberately throw a projectile at someone, that IS assaulting them! If Adele would be significantly more upset to have assaulted a child than an adult (...ok), she should probably in that case spend a little more time making sure that someone is over the age of consent before throwing things at them for her own peace of mind!
The fact that LW thinks his partner accidentally causing tens of thousands of dollars worth of damage would NOT be ample cause to cover their medical costs regardless of their dad's income is pretty mind-blowing, and the fact that LW holds this attitude EVEN WHEN his partner threw the rock on purpose... wow. If Adele isn't genuinely so remorseful that she WANTS to pay the medical costs as far as possible, including feeling upset about possible future loss of function in an injured eye... also wow. I'm inclined to look askance at LW downplaying Kim's plans about the future because, well, LW seems like a dick, and also kids aren't required to have firmly demonstrated their commitment to becoming pilots to their cousins' satisfaction by the age of 15 in order to be sincere. In fact, it would be legit to decide to become a pilot at 18 and pursue it in sincerity, and nobody's chances of doing so should be limited by other people throwing rocks at them (DUH).
Anyway... some of the CBT techniques for anger management, I think, have been shown remarkably effective, and it sounds like Adele really needs something of that kind if a response like that is even remotely on the cards. To say nothing of the therapy she probably needs about underlying issues.
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The fact that LW thinks his partner accidentally causing tens of thousands of dollars worth of damage would NOT be ample cause to cover their medical costs regardless of their dad's income is pretty mind-blowing, and the fact that LW holds this attitude EVEN WHEN his partner threw the rock on purpose... wow. If Adele isn't genuinely so remorseful that she WANTS to pay the medical costs as far as possible, including feeling upset about possible future loss of function in an injured eye... also wow. I'm inclined to look askance at LW downplaying Kim's plans about the future because, well, LW seems like a dick, and also kids aren't required to have firmly demonstrated their commitment to becoming pilots to their cousins' satisfaction by the age of 15 in order to be sincere. In fact, it would be legit to decide to become a pilot at 18 and pursue it in sincerity, and nobody's chances of doing so should be limited by other people throwing rocks at them (DUH).
Anyway... some of the CBT techniques for anger management, I think, have been shown remarkably effective, and it sounds like Adele really needs something of that kind if a response like that is even remotely on the cards. To say nothing of the therapy she probably needs about underlying issues.