People group me in with "ladies" despite me being enby, and it drives me wild. Especially when the "ladies" being referred to are in fact me, my also-enby wife, and a cis woman. Only one person in this group wants you to use that word, folks!

Yep I'm thinking of a specific group of people right now, ahaha.

I have no advice, though. It always feels really confrontational to even start to get at this subject. "I was just being friendly" etc etc.