Why are they trying to put PIV back on the menu and then suggesting a book with only one chapter on outercourse? Why not: decentering PIV can actually be amazing for lots of people's sex lives because its centrality can overshadow creativity and pleasure, I'm so excited for you. AND, learn from the queers please, we're so good at this. AND, specific recs:
1. OMGYES: specific, approachable techniques to apply when using mouths, toys, or hands to pleasure vulvas and vaginas, a boon for all the straight men who, when having sex, seem to forget they have hands? (NOT THAT I'M STILL DISAPPOINTED ABOUT THAT GUITARIST OR ANYTHING.)
2. Do you like PIV, LW? Like, do you like getting fucked with a thing that's shaped like a dick? Does your partner like thrusting into you and grinding on you? Have you considered sex toys? Maybe a strapon harness he could wear? (Or one for you to wear, that's fun too!)
3. You live a few hours' drive from a Planned Parenthood, so maybe this is not available locally either, but is there a feminist or queer-positive or sex-positive sex toy shop near you? If not near you, is there a farther away one that started offering their workshops online during pandemic? A lot of sex toy shops will offer workshops on things like "how to give great head" or "erotic bondage for beginners" or an array of other things, so check them out and see if there are things that interest you and consider taking a couple, together or apart. They can be helpful with getting practice talking about sexual techniques and options even if the specific topics aren't your favourites.
4. Did you and your partner have a courtship period where you had fun sexy experiences without having PIV? Have you had other relationships where you had that? Are there things you remember fondly about it? Things you stopped doing once PIV was on the table? Do you feel like recreating some of it?
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1. OMGYES: specific, approachable techniques to apply when using mouths, toys, or hands to pleasure vulvas and vaginas, a boon for all the straight men who, when having sex, seem to forget they have hands? (NOT THAT I'M STILL DISAPPOINTED ABOUT THAT GUITARIST OR ANYTHING.)
2. Do you like PIV, LW? Like, do you like getting fucked with a thing that's shaped like a dick? Does your partner like thrusting into you and grinding on you? Have you considered sex toys? Maybe a strapon harness he could wear? (Or one for you to wear, that's fun too!)
3. You live a few hours' drive from a Planned Parenthood, so maybe this is not available locally either, but is there a feminist or queer-positive or sex-positive sex toy shop near you? If not near you, is there a farther away one that started offering their workshops online during pandemic? A lot of sex toy shops will offer workshops on things like "how to give great head" or "erotic bondage for beginners" or an array of other things, so check them out and see if there are things that interest you and consider taking a couple, together or apart. They can be helpful with getting practice talking about sexual techniques and options even if the specific topics aren't your favourites.
4. Did you and your partner have a courtship period where you had fun sexy experiences without having PIV? Have you had other relationships where you had that? Are there things you remember fondly about it? Things you stopped doing once PIV was on the table? Do you feel like recreating some of it?