Okay, so as I said above, I'm irked that the columnist goes right to suggesting ways for LW and husband to have PIV sex. And this is a huge soapbox for me.

PIV sex is not the Holy Grail of how to do it, and in fact, especially for the receiving partner, risks pain and discomfort. And especially with the thing about both partners coming from purity culture, having kinds of sex that focus on exploring every part of each other's bodies and delighting in them and finding all spiffy new erogenous zones and things that are fun to do together, rather than focusing on how to get the guy's dick into his partner's orifices, sounds like a really good idea.