Some of the commenters explained why using "they" felt like misgendering to them (a butch lesbian, people who see it as a referendum on whether or not they "passed" or were viewed as looking "feminine enough," etc.)
But, yeah, the "when they don't know" thing is going to cause just as many assumptions and corrections.
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But, yeah, the "when they don't know" thing is going to cause just as many assumptions and corrections.