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Our wedding is approaching. My future husband has four siblings, one of whom is single. As we finalized our guest list, it was obvious to me that his single sister would not get a plus one for the wedding. But my fiancé objected. His sister occasionally brings a male friend to family events, and they engage in public displays of affection that are awkward for everyone. Also, our wedding is taking place across the country, and including this man in wedding events over several days doesn’t sit right with me. Am I being old-fashioned?
This is your wedding. You are allowed to be as old-fashioned as you and your fiancé agree to be. Keep in mind, though, that his sister may be very important to him. And since you are asking people to fly across the country to spend several days celebrating your wedding, he may want to offer his sister the courtesy of a companion.
Still, you have an equal vote here. I’m not exactly clear whether your objection to the plus one is that his sister is unmarried, her P.D.A. with her boyfriend makes you uncomfortable or you just don’t want to see this guy at your wedding. (Maybe it’s all three!) Be straight with your fiancé and talk this through. Sadly, it will not be the last compromise you two have to reach.
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/03/style/airplane-seat-etiquette-social-qs.html
This is your wedding. You are allowed to be as old-fashioned as you and your fiancé agree to be. Keep in mind, though, that his sister may be very important to him. And since you are asking people to fly across the country to spend several days celebrating your wedding, he may want to offer his sister the courtesy of a companion.
Still, you have an equal vote here. I’m not exactly clear whether your objection to the plus one is that his sister is unmarried, her P.D.A. with her boyfriend makes you uncomfortable or you just don’t want to see this guy at your wedding. (Maybe it’s all three!) Be straight with your fiancé and talk this through. Sadly, it will not be the last compromise you two have to reach.
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/03/style/airplane-seat-etiquette-social-qs.html