To add on to these great suggestions, the kids probably qualify for special education services at school under emotional/behavior disorders if they are not receiving them already. Depending on the school district, this could include sessions with a school social worker or help with finding more consistent therapy. LW could the process started by asking their teacher, school counselor, or an administrator at the school for an evaluation. Since the boys are young, this is a good time to start putting supports in place at school as well.