So, as somemone who currently works in situations involving domestic violence, yes, of course, secrecy and attention to detail are important during these sorts of situations, but as Prudie says, you can be vague-yet-specific about what's going on.

And: distant, secretive, mean, impatient... Those are all *bad traits* in a husband and/or close relationship. Just because he's not hitting you and/or emotionally abusing you doesn't mean it's necessarily a good relationship, and the cracks that form while under stress are worth paying attention to.

And divorce is an extreme solution, but it's not like... verboten. I mean. Unless you're Catholic and it is, but LW doesn't seem to be.

Anyway, overall, Prudie's advice is OK to good, and I think her last sentence hits the nail on the head.