Right? I mean, Steves are gonna be Steves; rapey bastards, and hopefully never successfully. But Jacks are the ones who are Nice Guys™, who think often they're allies, who pressure women to accept violence because the alternative is rude, who have no freaking idea how unacceptable it is to pre-arrange for a woman to share a tent with a man when they're strangers.

Jack thinks he's a good guy, and I hope LW would feel like she could tell Jack flat out, since she lives on the other side of the country and no longer shares a social circle she might risk ruining, that his behaviour is gaslighting, that he should believe women, and that he enables rape by coercing women into unsafe situations for the sake of social courtesies.