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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I live in an apartment building and whenever I see someone (especially when waiting for the elevator), I say hello, good morning, good evening, etc. My parents were adamant about manners, and I was raised to greet people and acknowledge them. I do this automatically, even when I'm not aware of it.
I recently had an episode where a neighbor, who has made it apparent that he and his girlfriend don't care for me, has asked me to stop greeting either of them whenever I see them. When I asked why, he said that I was pushing the boundaries of being a good neighbor. I'd never heard of this, and have no idea if I should respond as requested or just laugh it off (which I did when I thought of it).
As I run into them a few times a week, do you have any suggestions?
GENTLE READER: Swyize. This is Miss Manners' alternative to the ever-popular "smize." While the latter means to "smile with your eyes," Miss Manners' version means to smile without them.
You may greet your neighbors thus whenever you see them, signifying that you have heard their unneighborly request and will abide by it -- but not ungrudgingly so.
https://www.uexpress.com/life/miss-manners/2022/01/01/1
I recently had an episode where a neighbor, who has made it apparent that he and his girlfriend don't care for me, has asked me to stop greeting either of them whenever I see them. When I asked why, he said that I was pushing the boundaries of being a good neighbor. I'd never heard of this, and have no idea if I should respond as requested or just laugh it off (which I did when I thought of it).
As I run into them a few times a week, do you have any suggestions?
GENTLE READER: Swyize. This is Miss Manners' alternative to the ever-popular "smize." While the latter means to "smile with your eyes," Miss Manners' version means to smile without them.
You may greet your neighbors thus whenever you see them, signifying that you have heard their unneighborly request and will abide by it -- but not ungrudgingly so.
https://www.uexpress.com/life/miss-manners/2022/01/01/1