"It feels like Doyin is telling the LW to just magically get over her own grief and trauma since her husband snark redacted is also suffering. "

That's only because that's what Doyin is telling LW. By herself, no less, or at least he's not encouraging her to talk to ANYONE about this. Every single person in the comments here has given better advice and I wish so hard I could email LW a link to this discussion.

(I may be mad at Doyin.)