Given COVID, a lot of parents of new babies don't want visiting relatives, vaccinated or not, around their infants!
I think that LW's husband's family will be all under one roof next Christmas, too, and that if he goes off to see them this year for Christmas alone, considering what a hell year it has been for them as a couple and especially for his wife (his infertility is ongoing pain, but his wife is suffering from both his infertility and what it means for her), it could well look like a nail in the relationship later.
They are stressed and they would benefit from sitting together, talking, and being kind to each other in the most loving and compassionate ways they can. If she has not said to him in explicit, frank words, "I need your love and support more than anything else right now," rather than dancing around the issue with holidays, she should. His response will tell her what she needs to know.
On the other hand, they are stressed, and they might benefit from time apart with other people! Maybe she doesn't have friends in the area to spend Christmas with; maybe Christmas means blood family very especially to her. Maybe she could go visit her own family for Christmas.
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I think that LW's husband's family will be all under one roof next Christmas, too, and that if he goes off to see them this year for Christmas alone, considering what a hell year it has been for them as a couple and especially for his wife (his infertility is ongoing pain, but his wife is suffering from both his infertility and what it means for her), it could well look like a nail in the relationship later.
They are stressed and they would benefit from sitting together, talking, and being kind to each other in the most loving and compassionate ways they can. If she has not said to him in explicit, frank words, "I need your love and support more than anything else right now," rather than dancing around the issue with holidays, she should. His response will tell her what she needs to know.
On the other hand, they are stressed, and they might benefit from time apart with other people! Maybe she doesn't have friends in the area to spend Christmas with; maybe Christmas means blood family very especially to her. Maybe she could go visit her own family for Christmas.