I am an only child who is very close to my mother.
I also had a stroke when I was 21! And I didn't move back in with my parents, because I had just gotten married and for the most part my husband cared for me -- my parents did come help, though.
When my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer I moved back in immediately to help my mom. We managed because there were THREE of us: mom, me and my husband.
Now that my mom is in her 70s, has had her own stroke and has some mysterious fainting condition we are currently working to diagnose ... she would not *let* me take her into my home and take on so much burden like this. She would insist I hire help if I even had to (we currently live near one another enough it is easy to get to each others' homes via bus even though we're both mobility impaired) but for the most part absolutely would refuse to even let me take this much on.
So I think in close family dynamics this kind of ... uncomfortable burden combined with financial distress is overall less likely to happen. Only child and my brain injury happening first complicate my situation further, but I'm entirely independent at this point so that certainly isn't why my mom refuses to let me take on the caregiver stress; it's just because she doesn't want me (or my husband) to have to go through it.
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I also had a stroke when I was 21! And I didn't move back in with my parents, because I had just gotten married and for the most part my husband cared for me -- my parents did come help, though.
When my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer I moved back in immediately to help my mom. We managed because there were THREE of us: mom, me and my husband.
Now that my mom is in her 70s, has had her own stroke and has some mysterious fainting condition we are currently working to diagnose ... she would not *let* me take her into my home and take on so much burden like this. She would insist I hire help if I even had to (we currently live near one another enough it is easy to get to each others' homes via bus even though we're both mobility impaired) but for the most part absolutely would refuse to even let me take this much on.
So I think in close family dynamics this kind of ... uncomfortable burden combined with financial distress is overall less likely to happen. Only child and my brain injury happening first complicate my situation further, but I'm entirely independent at this point so that certainly isn't why my mom refuses to let me take on the caregiver stress; it's just because she doesn't want me (or my husband) to have to go through it.