I mean, I agree with you, and I might actually still be hung up on something like that - actually, I still am hung up on an incident in which two people (roommates) I thought liked me bitched about me for an hour while they thought I was sleeping. I've always had a kind of insecurity about people who allegedly love/like me not really doing so (you've read my sibling sagas, right?), but that sent it through the roof, and it still manifests when I have conflict with friends.

What was I saying?

Oh, yeah: it was an asshole move. And actually, I think LW would do well to label it an asshole move in an effort to move on from it. I just don't think she knows that.