My ethics actively requires that I ostracize people who are unvaccinated-by-choice (as opposed to by necessity or unavoidable circumstance), to be honest.
Just as I would ostracize somebody who injected strychnine into the town water supply. Or to bring in a more parallel example: some people have a religious belief that they should send their queer kids to pray-away-the-gay camp. Those people get their queer kids killed, and I believe they should be ostracized just as much as people who have a religious or non-religious belief that public health guidelines don't apply to them.
That said, the ethicist is right. Say "I have an immune system disorder, and I will not go to the home of an unvaccinated person for my own safety." If LW's friend is any kind of friend worth keeping, they'll respect that.
Although if the LW goes other places maskless indoors with unvaxxed folks (eg. around unvaccinated kids or in restaurants), then they shouldn't use that as an excuse. If nothing else, friend might learn of the hypocrisy.
Just be open about it. Ostracism has actually been changing people's behaviour on this one.
pikuach nefesh, baby
My ethics actively requires that I ostracize people who are unvaccinated-by-choice (as opposed to by necessity or unavoidable circumstance), to be honest. Just as I would ostracize somebody who injected strychnine into the town water supply. Or to bring in a more parallel example: some people have a religious belief that they should send their queer kids to pray-away-the-gay camp. Those people get their queer kids killed, and I believe they should be ostracized just as much as people who have a religious or non-religious belief that public health guidelines don't apply to them.
That said, the ethicist is right. Say "I have an immune system disorder, and I will not go to the home of an unvaccinated person for my own safety." If LW's friend is any kind of friend worth keeping, they'll respect that.
Although if the LW goes other places maskless indoors with unvaxxed folks (eg. around unvaccinated kids or in restaurants), then they shouldn't use that as an excuse. If nothing else, friend might learn of the hypocrisy.
Just be open about it. Ostracism has actually been changing people's behaviour on this one.