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shirou ([personal profile] shirou) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2021-10-28 09:06 pm (UTC)

The statistic you posted demonstrates a serious empathy gap.

And also: Four in five cis/het marriages in which the woman gets seriously ill do NOT end in separation or divorce (during the treatment period, at least). And LW isn't even sick, just aging. The age gap may be a little unusual, but her husband's commitment and support are not. (Source)

One in five men leaving seriously ill partners is not zero. I find it alarmingly high. But four in five is also not zero. I cringe at the use of the 7x figure (i.e., six times greater) by itself when it gives the misleading impression that most men leave sick partners, when in fact, most men stay.

Since LW's husband is already supportive, LW should talk about her feelings. It sounds like a little more verbal reassurance could go a long way. (As noted above, LW doesn't specifically identify their gender, but since same-sex marriage was not possible in most places 15 years ago, I am making the assumption LW is a woman.)

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