I reaally like this answer. I especially like how HTDI adroitly corrected the LW's homophobic misapprehension, then moved on to the massive issues the LW is facing.
I didn't mean to post 3 letters today but "Is it normal for him to not listen to me and what I want or don’t want?" made me want to cry. I wish I could tell LW this:
There are some words for people who deliberately hurt their sexual partners. Most of them apply to those who hurt their partners with consent: sadist, dominant, top, and so on. But there's one specifically for those who hurt their partners nonconsensually: abuser. And that word applies to your husband.
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I didn't mean to post 3 letters today but "Is it normal for him to not listen to me and what I want or don’t want?" made me want to cry. I wish I could tell LW this:
There are some words for people who deliberately hurt their sexual partners. Most of them apply to those who hurt their partners with consent: sadist, dominant, top, and so on. But there's one specifically for those who hurt their partners nonconsensually: abuser. And that word applies to your husband.