This might be me over-romanticising. I've been to two kinds of weddings: ones in my childhood, which were very formal Christian affairs, with seating charts and lots of tension, and weddings since I grew up, which were very informal (a couple had potlucks) and so on.

The middle ground was my favorite ex's wedding, where they assigned tables but not seats, and he put me and his other exes at Table 13. laugh