While this may be true (and is almost always true of relationships where one hears the same thing about partners over and over despite said partners not being anything alike) -- and this is totally my baggage -- it may also be a more general issue that LW may not either know about or think is important because they don't have a problem with that particular thing.

For example, I had 2 employers turn suddenly passive-aggressive at me after 2 years of extremely positive reviews. The workplace turned toxic and gaslighting, and in no reviews could anyone actually tell me what the issue was, even at the job where I escalated (extremely reluctantly) to HR, or how to remediate it. In retrospect in both cases, the thing that changed was my gender presentation -- I started wearing more masculine clothing and my hair got shorter. (A third workplace actually had documented homophobia/transphobia happening out loud in the open office.) So I suppose in the end, this did come down to being a "problem" with me, but was more of a culture that enabled passive-aggressive managers who couldn't (generally) say out loud that their problem was actually queerphobia but could move the goalposts on me until they could say I was a "bad fit" for jobs I'd been a good fit for for >2 years.