Thank you, I found this comment really helpful in clarifying my thinking. I would definitely never call anyone a 'sellout'; that's just not the way I operate, so yeah, I am probably not as bad as the friends described. But sometimes just lack of enthusiasm can come across like judgement, if you're looking for celebration.

I really like your observation about strength focused training not being a shortcut. It's really clear that both healthy and potentially problematic motivations can coexist, in the same community, in the same person. It makes sense that LW is subconsciously looking for someone to help them set boundaries, that seems like a much more charitable interpretation than that they're totally clueless about how much they're annoying their friends and keep bringing up the same annoying topic.