Appropriating the lives of others as if they are his own family instead of saying, "there’s this guy I know who" because he feels he gains status by making it his family. Typical white male cis het able bodied guy tactic of shoring up his position of power. The fake ally. Dangerous for these BIPOC and LGBTIQ kids--what is he telling them? How is he misleading them because he knows jack shit about the world? How is he using their stories for his big book sale or pod cast--whose lives is he stealing for his gain? Because he doesn’t actually have BIPOC and LGBTIQ friends because he hasn’t taken the time to interact with any. She should be worried. He doesn’t respect other people’s most intimate boundaries, especially of those most vulnerable, and he’ll take whatever he can use. Does she really want to live with this liar?