BRB. Calling my mom to thank her for being completely supportive in my reconnection with my birth mother's family. I'd say that things might have been different if bio mom had been alive, but she was also supportive of my brother's (brief - she wasn't good for him) reconnection with his birth mother, and has taken a couple of my brother's half-siblings under her wing.
LW, from personal experience: that reconnection can be very heady, especially for a child who's had no connection at all with a bio family. Both my daughter's birth and getting to know my bio families have given me a healthy respect for DNA. I literally have the same job as my bio father. And while my mom will always be my mom, there has been this tremendous...relief, after 45 years as the family oddball, to have people who get me, who like me as much as they love me. And I'm not saying LW hasn't given her daughter all of that, but it's not something we really talk about as a culture.
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LW, from personal experience: that reconnection can be very heady, especially for a child who's had no connection at all with a bio family. Both my daughter's birth and getting to know my bio families have given me a healthy respect for DNA. I literally have the same job as my bio father. And while my mom will always be my mom, there has been this tremendous...relief, after 45 years as the family oddball, to have people who get me, who like me as much as they love me. And I'm not saying LW hasn't given her daughter all of that, but it's not something we really talk about as a culture.
Also, that last line is awful.