Probably I should've done these as three posts, but honestly, I didn't want to spam up the comm.
1. There is no doubt in my mind that the post-assault comment was one of many, many slights and insults and probable acts of abuse that SIL endured at the hands of her mother - a woman who knows damn well why her daughter doesn't like her. Amy's advice is surprisingly sound, though I would've included the note that LW1 should remain cordial but distant from MIL, and keep a close eye out for grandparental favoritism.
2. It is entirely possible that both LW2 and Commenter are speaking about people whose spouses are, in fact, controlling and abusive. Sure. But if that's the case, you'd think they'd have more sympathy.
In LW2's case, I think it's clear that whatever they did wrong - which they were absolutely told about! - it has something to do with how they treated Granddaughter.
3. LW3 is going to disregard this perfectly reasonable advice, count on it, and the end result is that the sons will cut them off too, and justly so.
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1. There is no doubt in my mind that the post-assault comment was one of many, many slights and insults and probable acts of abuse that SIL endured at the hands of her mother - a woman who knows damn well why her daughter doesn't like her. Amy's advice is surprisingly sound, though I would've included the note that LW1 should remain cordial but distant from MIL, and keep a close eye out for grandparental favoritism.
2. It is entirely possible that both LW2 and Commenter are speaking about people whose spouses are, in fact, controlling and abusive. Sure. But if that's the case, you'd think they'd have more sympathy.
In LW2's case, I think it's clear that whatever they did wrong - which they were absolutely told about! - it has something to do with how they treated Granddaughter.
3. LW3 is going to disregard this perfectly reasonable advice, count on it, and the end result is that the sons will cut them off too, and justly so.